Limitless Love exists. Soulmates are real. How can you recognize a soulmate? It’s an alluring thought to ponder isn’t it? I believe we can have many soulmates in our lifetime. I believe we can find a soulmate in a friend, a family member, a lover, a partner, and even a pet. There is no limit to the love that may cross our paths and shake us up from the depths of our cores. For some, they find only one and that one mate is enough. One person who opens their eyes to the beauty of who they truly are. For others the number is countless. I have found that there is no right or wrong way to mate your soul.
A soulmate believes in you so much that there is no room for anything but growth. They see your light, even in your darkest moments. There is a shared open and honest communication within your sacred relationship, yet plenty of room for fun and laughter. There is a mutual respect and boundless support for each other’s freedom, growth, and individuality. Every challenge is seen as an opportunity to grow. Conflicts are resolved within the greater context of love for each other in ways that feel mutually satisfying and rewarding, ways that bring you closer.
In the Kindy dictionary soulmate is one word. It isn’t soul (space) mate. It’s soulmate, because two whole souls are coming together and finding an elevated sense of peace in one another. It’s a knowing, a familiarity we can’t describe, a connection that goes beyond words. In the dictionary the definition of soul is:
Lindsey is my cousin by blood, friend by choice, and soulmate by design. She is a bright spark with tons of energy, a fabulously fun personality, and a heart bursting with kindness. We share an innate bond that is uniquely powerful and beautiful. We operate on the same wavelength and understand one another without needing to speak. We often wonder if it is our shared genes that have brought us this depth of love and understanding.
You see, the story of Linds and I is an unusual one when it comes to your typical family tree. Stay with me now… this may take a few re-reads to comprehend. Our Mother’s mother, our Nanna, is the true embodiment of Love. She has had many soulmates in her lifetime. The result of her loving heart gave her the gift of 7 children with only my Mother and my Aunt Heidi (Lindsey’s mother) sharing the same father making Lindsey and I (from many cousins) full blooded cousins. My Mother and Aunt were very young when Linds and I were conceived. They lived together while Linds and I grew inside their tummies. When the time came for our arrivals, my Aunt decided that putting Lindsey up for adoption would be the best gift she could give her newborn baby.
During my childhood, February would come and pass and sometimes my Mother would say, “Kindra, you have a cousin named Lindsey whom you’ve never met. Let’s wish her a Happy Birthday.” Eighteen years passed and although I knew Lindsey existed, she was more of a character in an imaginary story than a reality in my life. Lindsey turned 18 and made the decision to find and meet my Aunt. Little did she know she wouldn’t only be meeting a Mother she had longed to know her entire life, but a plethora of aunts, uncles, and cousins that knew of and loved her from afar. I can’t imagine how overwhelming that realization must have been.
When Lindsey and I met I was a troubled teenager and her light intimidated me, but I still had an affinity for her. I was drowning in my darkness and I associated family with pain and anger. Adding another family member to my life was not of interest to me. Thankfully, in time, I swam back to the surface and constructed my own light. I now see those dark times as some of my most profound lessons in life. I did it on my own, but truly wouldn’t be who I am today without my beloved cousin Lindsey.
We awaken and inspire one another. We share anything and everything knowing it will be heard with love and acceptance. We can relax and breathe freely together. We hold each other’s wounds and melt away each other’s defenses. We teach each other things just by showing up as who we truly are. I’ve learned so much. I’ve learned that a broken heart is not the end of the world, but a new beginning. I’ve learned that sometimes we won’t ever know the answers to the questions that have altered our lives and that that, although distressing, is ok. I’ve learned that showing up for one another no matter how dreadful a situation may be is what matters most. We have watched each other crumble and melt into despair and we’ve been strong enough to pull each other out. She cares for the largest and smallest needs of her family, friends, and everyone around her. She is the epitome of compassion.
Linds and I also have fun. So. Much. Fun. We laugh uncontrollably. She is hilarious, genuine, smart, and beautiful. I admire her immensely. She is my person. My Soulmate.
So how do you recognize a soulmate? A soulmate connection is indescribable and goes beyond genes or chemistry, but the relationship beyond that is a choice. Lindsey and I may not have chosen one another to begin with, but we choose to stay. We are both whole, happy, healthy people, not needing, but wanting one another. Our love is not forced, it flows. People choose a life and relationships that are in alignment with what they truly want. A soulmate helps you make sense of those choices. They reflect back to you what you really are. So when I say “Choose Love” I mean choose consciously. Choose wisely. Show up fully. Follow your bliss. Be true to yourself and those that you love. I’m content with my choices. In fact, I am proud of them. Thank you Lindsey for loving me the way you do. You give my life meaning and for your love I am eternally grateful.
I love you Linds xo